I found a video online that I haven't been able to stop thinking about. The speaker is Brené Brown and what she said shook me to the core. "This changes everything," I thought as I fell asleep.
http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_listening_to_shame.html
Watch it. As soon as you have the time. (The rest of the post probably won't make sense if you don't.)
So a little more homework the next day, and I learned that this remarkable lady has written a book detailing her research. It is called:
I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t):
Telling the Truth about Perfectionism, Inadequacy and Power
Cut to my online life where I'm reading insightful comments from brilliant, talented women (you) about the guilt and stress in their lives. They are open and forthright in their discussions of their weakness and it is forging a connection between us that I have been craving. I mention the book in person, and one of them is very interested in learning about this research. I think, "we have to discuss these ideas--this is going to change everything."
I still have no idea how everything will change. But for me, it has already has begun. The culture of shame and silence is so damaging, and I've been living with it, fighting to get out for upwards of 15 years. So I want to make waves. Encourage women around me to have courage, compassion and connection.
I just got the book from the library, so after I get past the first chapter, I'll know more about what I want to do. But I just feel like sharing this is living it.
And now, in the words of my husband, I have gotten my passion all over you. What do you think? (He is usually to shell-shocked to speak.)
ooooh, can't wait to listen to it. people always rave about TED talks, but the one i listened to never got me hooked. but i have a good feeling about this one.
ReplyDeleteit was helpful to watch this one first http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o
ReplyDeletesince she was talking so much about it in the shame one.
none of that was really new to me, but it the topics of vulnerability and shame would be a very interesting topic for conversation.